Monday, November 2, 2009

Baked Chicken

I am a stay-at-home mom. Many of you know that, but in case you didn't I wanted to give you some context for what is to come.
I just fed my son lunch, and laid him down for a nap. Contrary to what many of you think I am not going to go sit on the couch to watch soap operas and eat bon-bons. I have allotted some time on the computer this afternoon to price compare Christmas gifts and hopefully get a jump on that. I am also going to finish the laundry I've been working on all day, clean the kitchen. call about a medical bill that is messed up, then go pick up my middle daughter bring her home and wait for the bus to drop off my older daughter. Then it's on to homework, catechism, make some dinner, serve some dinner, take my middle daughter to dance and on and on and on. Somewhere in here my husband will come home which can be both a help and a hindrance.
What bothers me is the lack of respect I sometimes feel from people that assume this job is easy or even a job that I want. Yes, I said it. I am envious most days when my husband showers, and leaves for work. I miss the days when I worked a full-time job and had the luxury of going to the bathroom without company. I sometimes went shopping on my lunch period, sometimes I even ate lunch.
The choice for me to stay home was a financial one, because when we really did the math and looked at our finances, taking into account taxes, childcare, and commute time I was making about $18 a day and we were arguing all the time about the lack of time, or about who had the more important job and would stay home with the kids if they were sick. It was ridiculous.
We aren't rich, and I certainly do not have the temperament of a preschool teacher, but we do love our kids and knew that something had to change. So now I'm a stay at home mom. I don't dress as nicely as I used too. I wear a lot of the sweatshirts I wore in college (free advertising for St. Mary's University's quality sweatshirts!) We don't eat out very much, and my kids don't have the latest toys or clothes I purchased out of guilt. I am learning lessons of patience every day, my husband is having incredible successes at his job, and while I'm not the best mom, I'm working on it.
Please remember though, while you may have a more recent haircut than I, or you think I need a job for my self-esteem, or that I may be too consumed by my kids and their activities, I chose this, and I would choose it again.
Everybody complains about their job, and everybody wants a raise, but not everybody has their employees in the bathroom with them.


Goodwyf Allie said...

You ARE THE BEST MOM!!! we all fall short sometimes, we all have bad days--but ask your kids--your really are the best!

I'm sending a raise, and a commendation on your permanent Mom record that you are the BEST!!!


Anna said...

I agree that you are a great mom, Sheridan. I'm sure you didn't write this post to get any praise, but too bad! :)

I wish I was in a position to stay home with my kids. I'm very envious of you. I know being a stay at home mom is probably the hardest job in the world, but the one that can give you the most satisfaction.

You rock!

Brian said...

I know the feeling. I stayed home with Finn for 3 months and everyone kept asking me what I was going to do for a job...or they asked me if I was going to turn into a 400 lb pile of crap from sitting around all day. If only the world could see how hard stay at home parents work.

Keep it up- you are doing a great job and your kids will be greatfull one day that you did what you are doing (even if they aren't greatfull now).